Thoughts On Friends

So umm me and my mom were coming home from somewhere tonight and idk what caused it but I started thinking about high school and growing up and stuff. The main thoughts were about my friends or I should say so called friends.

I guess maybe I should start by sourting out the main groups of so called friends I had growing up and in high school.

First off there mwas a certain group of friends I had growing up. And as far as I remember we went to school toghter all of our lives.
Then there was a group that i knew all through out high school cause I joined when I was a freshmen it was the academic team.
Then finally there was a group that i was in for only about 2 1/2 years of high school called fccla.
So now I remember what caused these thoughts I was somewhere and saw someone from the fccla that me and my mom both knew. We both looked her right in the face and she never even spoke to us.
And me and my thought that was weird because she had been my best friend throughout those years in fccla.
So it got me to thinking why would someone like that just not talk to me?
Then I thought about two friends from the group I grew up up with , there was one I rmebered very well I grew up with her all my life from the first bbtist church preschool all the way through high school. How long was that 16 years at least. And well she has been ignoring me also.
At this point I was very frustrated cause it was like well if u cznt trust a friend u had that long and they aren't really ur friend or weren't I meant to say then how will I make any new friends where i live?
And then as I get home it hits me another supposed best friend of mine had also stopped talking to me and has been ignoring me for a while.
And then that's when the pieces feel in place.
Cause you see the won I had known for 16 years and the one that was another supposed best friend of mine had recently become best friends. And they both started ignoring me right around the same time. And then I get to thinking well no one from this group of friends I grew up with really talks to me anymore. Uh huh do u get where I'm going with this? It was that simple it had to been Ingroup/out group mentality was the reason why no one in that group of friends was talking to me anymore.
So I examine the fccla group. Remember that girl I saw earlier tonight and mentioned in the start of this blog. Well it had hit me that once she stopped talking to me everyone I was in fccla with did. Uh huh another case of I group/out group mentality.
So then I realized hey the reason I have basically no friends where i live is because of the ingroup/out group way of thinking.
Now I had to try to figure out what got me kicked out of those groups? Well I'm sure and I'm sry I always say this alot I'm sure the fact that i have recnetrly within the last couple of years came out as an athiest didn't help. So lets examine the two main groups I've talked about.
Now the people I grew up with group well its harder to figure out. I mean maybe the fact that alot of them aren't single anymore didn't help matters. Contorllkng bfs/husband or at least ones that don't want them talking to me. But as far as the best friend who I didn't know for sixteen years but knew since middle school goes well this theory sounds farfetehced because I had been friends with her sweetheart and now husband for a long time. Of course he may i have changed. But that doesn't explain the girl I've know on for sixteen years turning her back on me. Unless either one it was a very good lie for sixteen years or two the middle school girl is now controlling her. I really don't know what it is.
Now lets exmain the fccla group. It could be the boyfriend issue all over again. Of course here is another theory maybe they just used me. Maybe since I was the only male in the group they felt they needed to use me until another one came around. Or maybe it was all a lie from the start I really dont know.
Anyway I those were the thoughts I had tonight. And thonking about those things is why I was and still am a lil down and am hurting a lil tonight.
Now here are the closing thoughts for this blog.
Number one the academic team I was on was the best group I was in cause I basically have a least three friends from that group on my life today.
Number two if u ever wanna tease me about how much I text or am online just rember I bascilly only have three friends left form growing up not counting mom and my family so well I wanna have more people to talk to and be friends with than just three people. Though they are high quality and loyal friends for outlasting people I've grew up with all my life.
Anyway I just felt the Need to write this thanks for reading If u do.

My thoughts On The "where the good guys at?/are there any good guys left?" type of girl

Now i must warn yall who read my blogs and stuff this isn't gonna be like any others. idk if it'll be offensive or not but i felt the need to write it. Im gonna talk about relationships and friendships in this one.

First off id like to address the question of where are the good guys at? A questions that i see alot when browsing the internet. well i can promise you girls were out there. Were just the ones you always ignore or dont pay as much attention to. I mean come one we all know its true girls you know its true also...you look past us and go for the assholes everytime.

Im writing this part cause of someones status on myyearbook asking this very question. so she responds to the thought that we always get looked past with well its more to the package other than being a good guy. See thats jsut becoming picky IMO. and then this guy named alex comes in btw i respect him he is really smart and seemed to know what he was talking about.

so alex says:

"But girls never give the good guy a chance to show who they are I know you goota make the chance but its kinda hard when woman don't give you the time of day lol"

that is so true an as far as where i live ik about all that. They say oh well i just wanna be friends or whatever. I mean im sure some of good guys arent the best looking and maybe were nerdy but still would you rather have a good guy or an asshole who treats you badly. Cause im sure we have good stuff to us also. or theyll jsut ingore you till their taken again.

Note: were getting to the point where me and alex kinda disagreed but not really that much.

he goes on to say that i was right and that it is very much bull when it happens and then they except you to be there when things go wrong with the guy they choose over you.Although i think that what guy friends are suppsoed to be there for. I do get his point because it is frustating when they want you there for them and here you was a good guy and they choose over the asshole over you or me or whoever then come crying to whoever when they should have choosen you in the first place.

to which i said well im loyal to mmy friends even though some pull that over and over again. or have even though i dont get to talk to my friends from where i live very much anymore. Ik they have pulled that on me many times.

and his basically finished it off by saying:

"I think after a certain point its the same as a guy usein a girl she's just using you to get past him then she casts you to the side again"

now im not gonna say that every girl ive ever been freinds with has done this. But i do know quite a few that have. And i do agree it may even be worse then a guy usein a girl cause your supposed to be friends. But i mean its always been that way for good guys and probably always will be. Cause thats just the way some girls are and it would be hard for them to ever change.

and to finish this up id just like to add one more thing. As far as friends goes im one of the most loyal, loving, and caring people you could ever meet. So you can only imagine how much it has and still would if anybody did what was talked about above. IMO girls who does what was mentioned above shouldnt even be allowed to have a single friend male or female cause that is a horrible to treat your friends. This is taking into account the fact that some are bi and or lez also.

I mean girls like that shouldnt even get any attetion and shouldnt have a single person be their friend.

To the guys out there with a female friend like what i talked about above just leave. Shell realize how good you was to her. And she'll beg you to come back into her life. But dont come back into their life asssholes like that arent worth the time or your friendship. There are better friends then that out there.

So what do yall think?

-Jamie G.